* I am 35 years old female dealing with menopause. I have not participated in sex with my husband for almost two years. My menopause is causing no interest in sex. I visited a gynecologist for help but I had no success. The doctor gave me a vaginal cream. Nothing improved my condition after cream usage. I need your advise on how to resolve this issue. Depending upon your feed back I am interested in seeking any medications/Doctor’s help if needed.
I would certainly consult another doctor, one more sympathetic to the issue of lack of desire and one more knowledgeable in women’s concerns. The cream you were given probably contained testosterone, the male hormone responsible for sexual desire in both men and women. While there are no magic pills guaranteed to restore a lagging libido, and testosterone is often helpful, there are some other medical aids available. You might also consider seeing a sex therapist for some further explorations.
* Does the G Spot really exist?
Just like not every man can come from blow jobs, or even likes them (yes, really), not all women are positively sensitive around the G Spot. Some feel nothing, some dislike the sensation of stimulation there. Many doctors say it does not exist because they examine the woman when she is not sexually aroused. That’s like saying men don’t have erections because you have never seen one in the gym showers. I can attest to the existence of a sensitive spotin the vagina, about a finger’s length in and to the front, on some women.
* I appreciate your non-judgmental, informative responses in your column. However on a recent response was incomplete when someone asked about blacking out after orgasm. That column came out the same week that my mother (in her 70s) had been in the hospital for an episode in which she had no memory of an action she had done earlier in the day, even when someone described it to her. After running the full battery of tests,(MRI, blood work, CT scan, heart monitoring) they concluded it was a thing called “Transient Global Amnesia”, which is not necessarily related to any medical condition, nor
necessarily connected to any medical risks. When I researched this on the web, I read that this type of temporary memory loss can occur after certain stimuli, including sex.