What Women Want When They Cheat

November, 2016   What Women Really Want: New Study Reveals Answer to Age-old Question

  •         Seven out of every 10 women say their partner does not sexually satisfy them.
  •         Almost two out of every three women say they get more orgasms with their lovers.
  •         One-fifth of cheating women say they don’t receive enough oral sex.

Women want more sex, and if their long-term partner isn’t stepping up to the plate, they are finding it elsewhere, and say it is better than what they are getting at home, according to the revealing results of a new study published today.

Victoria Milan—a dating site for married and attached people looking to cheat—slipped between the sheets with 3,147 of its female members to answer the question that has been puzzling men for years: what do women want?

The sexy statistics reveal that more than seven out of 10 cheating women (72.4 percent) are not having their sexual needs met by their long-term partner, and that leads them to stray. According to the data analysis, 65 percent of the cheating women surveyed say they climax more with their lover than their partner, while 19.6 percent of them say they fake their orgasms with their partner half of the time.

More than one-fourth of surveyed women say they need stronger physical connection to make their sex lives better, while 40 percent of them are lacking both a physical and emotional connection. When it comes to choosing what they lack the most in their current sex life, “not having enough sex” and “not getting enough oral pleasure” are the two main reasons that cheating women look for an adulterous adventure.

Being more adventurous with positions and locations, and inviting a third person into the bedroom are low on the list of reasons why women stray, with less than 10 percent citing these as the reasons for taking on multiple lovers.

Sigurd Vedal, founder and CEO of Victoria Milan, said that the research answers the question men have been asking for years: what do women want? It turns out that women are after sex—and a lot of it.

“It’s no longer a taboo subject—women love having sex, and if their partner isn’t giving them enough, they will go and find it elsewhere. In addition, women have categorically told us they have better sex with their lovers than their partners,” Mr. Vedal said.


3,147 female members of Victoria Milan polled*

Are your sexual needs being met by your partner?

Yes – 27.6%   No – 72.4%

Do you reach climax more often with your partner or your lover?

My partner – 34.7%    My lover – 65.3%

Approximately what percentage of the time do you fake orgasms?

0-20% – 58.8%

20-40% – 7.8%

40-60% – 19.6%

60-80% – 11.8%

80-100% –  2.0%

What do you need to make your sex life better?

Stronger physical connection – 26.5%

Stronger emotional connection – 10.2%

Both – 40.8%

Neither – 22.4%

What about your current sex life makes you want to look for a new adventure?

Not enough sex – 21.7%

Not enough oral sex – 20.0%

Not enough foreplay – 18.3%

I feel disconnected from my partner – 10.0%

I need more romance – 8.3%

The sex does not last long enough – 6.7%

Not enough creativity with the positions and locations – 5.0%

I want more passion – 5.0%

No instigation on their part – 3.3%

I would like to bring in other people – 1.7%

*To conduct this research, Victoria Milan collected and analyzed data from 22 countries via online survey, and ensures that all possible measures are in place to protect its members’ identities and privacy.  For more information, please contact press@victoriamilan.com

VictoriaMilan is one of the world’s leading discreet social networks for men and women seeking a secret affair. The service was launched by Norwegian media executive Mr. Sigurd Vedal in 2010, and has today become one of the world’s fastest-growing and leading social networks for discreet extramarital affairs, surpassing 5.8 million members worldwide in more than 33 countries.