* My new girlfriend, a woman in her 50’s, has a history of being abused as a child. I don’t know the details. She says that because of what happened to her she does not enjoy sexual contact and can not reach orgasm. Is there no hope for her? I wouldn’t say that. Many survivors … Continue reading Ask Isadora #17-08 : Hope for Recovery
* My lover and I have been on and off for years. We argue, we make up, we break up, we miss each other, we get back together, and repeat it all again. Is there any way to know for sure when the relationship is finally over? Well, the signs are certainly not as well … Continue reading Ask Isadora: It’s Over
* Im planning for a wild weekend and don’t want to worry about having erection difficulties. I generally take Cialis. How much is safe for say, a 48 hour funfest? A note in the March 26, 2008 Sexual Science, the newsletter for the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, says that Eli Lilly & … Continue reading Ask Isadora: A New Use for One-A-Day Pills
* What are some possible outlets for an aroused person who can not have sex or who has no one to have sex with? Being sexual with oneself, masturbation, is always safe and available for males and females with sexual urges. Often one can be sexual with a partner without having sexual intercourse. There is … Continue reading Ask Isadora #14-08 : What's Possible
* You posted on your website recently a BBC report about a man in the Sudan who was forced to marry a goat. A neighbor caught him fucking his goat and the town magistrate forced him to pay the goat’s owner a dowry and to take the goat as his bride. How does that work? … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Baaaaad News
* I have had two relationships that ended badly and weren’t all that satisfying while they were happening. Both guys were distant and not very caring to me. My father left my mother and me when I was very young and my step-father couldn’t care less about me. Because I never had a good caring … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Doomed by History?
* I have just begun dating a man. We are both coming out of 20 year relationships. We’ve been on five dates and I’ve slept over twice. He has invited me to spend Sunday with him and to spend the night as well. He also told me is seeing or meeting (but not “dating”) other … Continue reading Ask Isadora: The Terms of the Deal
* Recently I conducted an informal poll of my sexually healthy thirty-something lady friends in our weekly book reading club. Everyone there I spoke with confessed to indulging herself regularly, sometimes multiple times a day. I asked them why so often. They said “Let’s turn to a classic joke about why does a dog lick his … Continue reading Ask Isadora: What Ladies Do
*Recently a lady friend of mine moved to Florida. I am a 27 year old single female. She was a single lady in her early 40’s. We went out a lot and spent a lot of time at her place and mine. I was always consumed with a powerful urge to be spanked by her. … Continue reading Ask Isadora #9-08 : Take That!
* I was dating an amazing girl about a month ago but now she’s moved far away for six months. Not that I know her well enough to “wait for her”, but it presents an opportunity to stop the dating thing for a while and work on my own projects. When she comes back, who … Continue reading Ask Isadora #8-08 : Me, Myself and I