* My boyfriend sometime doesn’t call me for several days. When he does he acts like nothing is wrong. What does this mean? It could mean he sees nothing wrong in not calling for several days. Since you obviously do, it’s time to make your wants and expectations more clear. That doesn’t mean he’ll hop … Continue reading Ask Isadora: The Care and Feeding of Me →

* Can sexual chemistry be conjured/created or do you just have it with some people and not with others? Lots of possibilities here. Surely you’ve heard about arranged marriages that became passionate. Was that determined solely by expectations? What about friends who suddenly become lovers? Was there always an undercurrent of sexual attraction simmering away … Continue reading Ask Isadora: The Mystery of Sexual Chemistry →

*The first month of our relationship was a blur. He made the first moves and I just followed because it all felt soo natural. We agreed to move in together and after that both of us started freaking out. I started analyzing everything he did and didn’t do. In return, he saw a different side … Continue reading Ask Isadora : Warp Speed Relationship →

* Since my early teens, I have been masturbating. This sounds normal, every man masturbates. Mine is a bit different. I always looked for images and porn to masturbate, mostly porn. It wasn’t a pleasure thing; it was a need for me. Besides, it wasn’t like “first try and enjoy, then become addict”. It was … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Improving Your IQ? →

* It feels to me that my husband and I are missing many occasions for sex because, even after 18 years of marriage, we don’t seem to let the other know clearly enough when we’re interested. I don’t know what to do about this. Sit down together. Ask him if it’s his sense as well … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Sending Signals →

* On a trip to Washington, D.C., my boyfriend asked me to give him head. Usually I am happy to do that whenever he wants. I refused because I thought it was dangerous to do while he was driving. I wouldn’t give him a hand job either. He got really mad. Was I wrong? What … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Designated Entertainer →

*I have a male friend at work that I’m pretty sure is gay. He has a “girlfriend” of ten years, that no one has ever met or even seen a picture of and he is extremely effeminate. I wish he would come clean instead of lying. I understand everyone has a right to privacy, but … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Inviting Him Out →