* My girlfriend seems to want to have sex every uncomfortable place you can imagine. She‘s wanted to stop the car to make love on a beach, in a forest, and even a field where there were cows. What‘s with that?

You could ask her why but I‘m sure you‘ll get an ode on the glories of making love surrounded by the beauty of nature rather than an admission that for her the risk of being seen adds spice to the event. I suggest you carry a cushy blanket in your car and devise sexual positions where you are on top. Her body has got to be more comfortable than rocks, sand, or cow plops at your back.

* Is there a way to approach a strange woman you see at a coffee shop or grocery store than doesn‘t seem like your trying to pick her up?

But you are trying to pick her up, aren‘t you? You‘re not approaching her to panhandle or ask directions. The easiest way to start a conversation with a stranger is whatever the two of you have in common. If you both are waiting for a bus, ask or comment about bus riding, in the supermarket ask or comment about the food in her basket or what‘s on the shelf . Some people will easily talk to strangers, others won‘t. Some people will find your comments threatening rather than friendly or are focused on whatever they‘re doing and wouldn‘t talk to you no matter what. If you approach a stranger in a friendly manner rather than with an objective of getting her phone number you‘re more likely to get a friendly rather than a guarded response and that may lead wherever you were aiming. You might be interested in my booklet New Ways To Meet New People. If so, send $5 to 917 Walnut Street, Alameda, CA 94501 and I will mail you several pages of distilled wisdom on this topic.

* Can a woman learn to have multiple orgasms or is that just a natural response that one has or hasn‘t got? I‘m really envious of other women I hear about that just keep on coming as long as their lovers keep on doing whatever it takes. I‘m a once and done kind of person and I‘d like to change it if it‘s possible.

I‘m really not sure. Sometimes with a partner a woman can come once from oral sex or finger manipulation and then again through intercourse or some other stimulation, but I don‘t think that‘s what you mean. Your best chance of changing things might be through masturbation. Practice pushing on once you‘ve come and see if there‘s more to be had. If continuing with the same stimulation that brought you there once is not exciting, do something else but keep on stimulating. If you manage to retrain yourself please write me and let me know. I‘m sure others would like to hear your success story too.

*How many sex positions are there?

That really depends on how you count. For a heterosexual couple there might only be a few – side by side, woman on top, woman on bottom. Or, if you count every little variance (like woman on bottom with legs straight out, woman on bottom with one leg bent, etc.) you can have thousands. If the question behind your question is one about “what else can we do that we haven‘t tried yet” I suggest perusing some illustrated sex manuals, anything from the The Kama Sutra to The Joys of Sex.