Too Old? * I’m always trying to put a little zing into our marriage of almost twenty years.  Whenever I suggest something even a little bit sexy like getting massages or going to a hot tub place my husband’s response is something like “We’re too old for that stuff!” We’re in our fifties.  Is there … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Too Old? →

 Spending the Night  *  I am a single mother dating a guy for the past few months.  When and how is a good way to introduce him to my twin 7 year old girls?  What about sleepovers?  Be sure the guy wants to meet your kids.  He may not ready for “family” involvements.   Take into … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Spending the Night →

 Weekend Surprise * My wife and I have been invited to attend a weekend resort with another couple we don’t know too well. We were told there would be other congenial couples there. I have a feeling this couple may be “swingers”. Can I ask them directly? II think you’d better find out more if … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Weekend Surprise →

* Before we move in together my sweetie and I have discussed all the potential problem areas we can think of like privacy, sharing expenses, our individual friends and families. Up until now, we have been spending weekends together but not much more time together than Friday night to Sunday night. On weekends we usually … Continue reading Ask Isadora: More or Less Sex →

The Ups and Downs of Attraction * My new man friend has occasional erection difficulties.  He assures me that they have nothing to do with his attraction to me but I have a hard time believing that.  Don’t men get erections automatically when they have partner they find attractive? Not as a man ages, no.  … Continue reading Ask Isadora: The Ups and Downs of Attraction →

* I am 35 years old female dealing with menopause. I have not participated in sex with my husband for almost two years. My menopause is causing no interest in sex. I visited a gynecologist for help but I had no success. The doctor gave me a vaginal cream. Nothing improved my condition after cream … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Lagging Libido →

 Sleeping Alone * I have been having a lot of sleep problems lately and I am consulting a doctor about them.  I’m willing to try medications if recommended but to me the most obvious solution that would be least intrusive and expensive would be to sleep alone.  I want to sleep in what is now … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Sleeping Alone →

Big Girls’ Toys *  I use a vibrator for my personal pleasure.  I am used to reaching climax with it and am having a difficult time doing that without it. My new boyfriend will not let me bring it into bed with us.  He says he can learn to do whatever I like and we … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Big Girls’ Toys →

Thank you, I Think * My boyfriend keeps giving me sexy gifts like nighties and thong panties.  Not only are they inappropriate for me to open in front of others they are just not me.  I would never wear anything like the stuff he gives me.  What should I say to him?  Should I just … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Thank you, I Think →