Over the years couples who have come into counseling with me to repair their relationship after an infidelity often feel guilty (the offender) and victimized (the other). Obvious, yes? What I often hear is “How could you do this to me?” What I never hear in response and what seems obvious to me is “I … Continue reading Why Do People Cheat?
The thing about beginning a relationship is that you really can’t know for sure that’s what you are doing until you are looking backwards at it. From the comfort of an established twosome you can reminisce “Remember how nervous I was on our first date?” or “When we went in for that first kiss we … Continue reading Beginning A Relationship
When I was small my parents used to entertain often, usually in backyard barbecues, and usually the same people would be there: Mr. and Mrs. Lerner with her yappy little dog tucked in her arm, Dr. and Mrs. Apland who had teenage children but left them at home, Mr. & Mrs. Dennis whose little boy … Continue reading Three In A Marriage
When I was in college many years ago I worked as an artists’ model – sometimes draped or costumed, sometimes nude. Only the very first time without clothing was difficult and then only for a few seconds. Truth be told, I was 18 and 19 and knew I had a beautiful body. I enjoyed being … Continue reading Naked or Nude
Whose name comes immediately to mind? Him? Her? “I do” stated proudly? “We both do” or “It varies with the situation”? This question doesn’t always have a clear answer. Sometimes who holds the power in a relationship is obvious when it comes to money. The answer would be whichever of you has or earns the … Continue reading Who Has The Power in Your Relationship?
My partner and I are both in our 70’s, well into them. When we walk into a store, a restaurant, a theater, either we are holding hands or I have my hand through his bent arm and holding on. We do this not out of an abundance of affection (although there is that) but because, … Continue reading Neither My Sweetie Nor I is Cute
Let’s start off with a sad truth: There are people who definitely prefer large penises, thick ones, long thin ones, or ones that have a bend, left or right. If you are a man trying to get with someone who has a definite preference for something you don’t have, it’s too bad but you are … Continue reading Men With Small Penises Can Have Happy Sex Lives
All sorts of things cross my desk and my screen, seeking me out because I write about sex and relationships. One that popped up a few weeks ago had a bold headline: Study Says Divorce Rates DOUBLE When Married People Watch Adult Entertainment. This study was about married people who watched it alone, not together, … Continue reading Do You and/or Your Mate Watch Pornography
How many times have you read or heard tales of people who said “I knew at first sight that this was The One?” In many cases they were correct, too, because this is a quote from a couple at their wedding or even a couple married 50 years. I see it often and am always … Continue reading Love (or Something Like It) At First Sight
When I was newly separated from my husband in my mid 30’s I was rather at a loss for a male escort for the many social occasions that seemed to require one. I invited a work colleague of mine to something, although I don’t remember the occasion, and I had a great time – much … Continue reading Sexless and Satisfying Relationships