* I have had two relationships that ended badly and weren’t all that satisfying while they were happening. Both guys were distant and not very caring to me. My father left my mother and me when I was very young and my step-father couldn’t care less about me. Because I never had a good caring … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Doomed by History?
* I have just begun dating a man. We are both coming out of 20 year relationships. We’ve been on five dates and I’ve slept over twice. He has invited me to spend Sunday with him and to spend the night as well. He also told me is seeing or meeting (but not “dating”) other … Continue reading Ask Isadora: The Terms of the Deal
*Recently a lady friend of mine moved to Florida. I am a 27 year old single female. She was a single lady in her early 40’s. We went out a lot and spent a lot of time at her place and mine. I was always consumed with a powerful urge to be spanked by her. … Continue reading Ask Isadora #9-08 : Take That!
* Recently I conducted an informal poll of my sexually healthy thirty-something lady friends in our weekly book reading club. Everyone there I spoke with confessed to indulging herself regularly, sometimes multiple times a day. I asked them why so often. They said “Let’s turn to a classic joke about why does a dog lick his … Continue reading Ask Isadora: What Ladies Do
* My boyfriend sometime doesn’t call me for several days. When he does he acts like nothing is wrong. What does this mean? It could mean he sees nothing wrong in not calling for several days. Since you obviously do, it’s time to make your wants and expectations more clear. That doesn’t mean he’ll hop … Continue reading Ask Isadora: The Care and Feeding of Me
* I was dating an amazing girl about a month ago but now she’s moved far away for six months. Not that I know her well enough to “wait for her”, but it presents an opportunity to stop the dating thing for a while and work on my own projects. When she comes back, who … Continue reading Ask Isadora #8-08 : Me, Myself and I
* Can sexual chemistry be conjured/created or do you just have it with some people and not with others? Lots of possibilities here. Surely you’ve heard about arranged marriages that became passionate. Was that determined solely by expectations? What about friends who suddenly become lovers? Was there always an undercurrent of sexual attraction simmering away … Continue reading Ask Isadora: The Mystery of Sexual Chemistry
*The first month of our relationship was a blur. He made the first moves and I just followed because it all felt soo natural. We agreed to move in together and after that both of us started freaking out. I started analyzing everything he did and didn’t do. In return, he saw a different side … Continue reading Ask Isadora : Warp Speed Relationship
* Since my early teens, I have been masturbating. This sounds normal, every man masturbates. Mine is a bit different. I always looked for images and porn to masturbate, mostly porn. It wasn’t a pleasure thing; it was a need for me. Besides, it wasn’t like “first try and enjoy, then become addict”. It was … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Improving Your IQ?
* It feels to me that my husband and I are missing many occasions for sex because, even after 18 years of marriage, we don’t seem to let the other know clearly enough when we’re interested. I don’t know what to do about this. Sit down together. Ask him if it’s his sense as well … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Sending Signals