* OK so I’ve been seeing this guy for the past three years and its been like five months since we’ve been “on break”. We are still seeing each other because we want to see if it works out but the thing is that he hasn’t brought anything up about us trying it again. I … Continue reading Ask Isadora #33-08 : All About Risk
* I am a 40 year old woman who has never been married and who has only had several boyfriends in her lifetime. I am very untrusting and I have problems with intimacy. I was injured time and time again by my family of origin, physically and emotionally, but now they are all gone and … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Ending Loneliness
* My new guy says at our age (40+) we don’t have to worry about birth control or as white, middleclass professionals we don’t need to concern ourselves with AIDS. Therefor there is no need of condoms. What do you say? I say, don’t invest your money with this guy or allow him any access … Continue reading Ask Isadora : Love, Lust & Latex
* We are two women in a longterm relationship. My partner is older than I and is going through a difficult menopause. I am sympathetic, of course, but her mood swings are driving us both crazy. Is there anything that can be done about them? How long are we both going to have to endure … Continue reading Ask Isadora #30-08 : Midlife Misery
*I am 31 years old man and married for four years. I have a foot fetish and it is creating problems for my married life. I am not able to have intercourse because I do not get aroused unless there is feet involved. My wife does not knows about my fetish, and if I try … Continue reading Ask Isadora #29-08 : Footloose
* Do you think men know right away if they are attracted to someone and it takes women longer to figure it out? It seems that way to me. I bet if you took a survey of all your friends and acquaintances and how they connected with their last love your theory would be disproved. … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Yes or No
* My boyfriend and I have lived together for almost 2 years and we’re now trying to have a baby. I think he might be cheating on me, so how do I find out for sure? Let’s get our priorities straight. Ever hear the song “First comes love, then comes marriage. Then comes you with … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Baby Making
* I appreciate your classy, professional, kind approaches to delicate subjects. I don’t read the paper every week, but hopefully you have some answer for me. I am 53, in fabulous shape, look like I’m 40 ish. I have been with my Karezza lover for 2 years. He has never ejaculated with me. We reach … Continue reading Ask Isadora #26-08 : Holding Out for a Holder On
* I would like to be a better lover. Can you provide some tips on oral techniques please? Unless you are actively bisexual you are likely to be interested in oral sex only on women or only on men. You don’t say which. Oral sex techniques for women or for men are a wide enough … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Slurp
* Do women ever lubricate for no apparent reason? I always associated lubrication with sexual stimulation of some sort. But I picked up my girlfriend’s panties one day after work and they were pretty lubricated, just dried up a bit. She said that this is normal and it happens from time to time. Is that … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Why Are They Wet?