* My boyfriend and I have lived together for almost 2 years and we’re now trying to have a baby. I think he might be cheating on me, so how do I find out for sure? Let’s get our priorities straight. Ever hear the song “First comes love, then comes marriage. Then comes you with … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Baby Making
* I appreciate your classy, professional, kind approaches to delicate subjects. I don’t read the paper every week, but hopefully you have some answer for me. I am 53, in fabulous shape, look like I’m 40 ish. I have been with my Karezza lover for 2 years. He has never ejaculated with me. We reach … Continue reading Ask Isadora #26-08 : Holding Out for a Holder On
* I would like to be a better lover. Can you provide some tips on oral techniques please? Unless you are actively bisexual you are likely to be interested in oral sex only on women or only on men. You don’t say which. Oral sex techniques for women or for men are a wide enough … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Slurp
* Do women ever lubricate for no apparent reason? I always associated lubrication with sexual stimulation of some sort. But I picked up my girlfriend’s panties one day after work and they were pretty lubricated, just dried up a bit. She said that this is normal and it happens from time to time. Is that … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Why Are They Wet?
*My significant other masturbates to porn on the computer. I understand that he may need sex more often than I do and I’m sure that he loves only me, but I am still uncomfortable that he does this. Is this my problem or is it his? If his solo sex practices are causing difficulty between … Continue reading Ask Isadora #23-08 : What He Does in Private
* I am going through a very hard problem now. I got married a while back and I am now in a relationship with another man. I really love him a lot. We planned on getting married in August but I have not gotten a divorce yet. I am going down to the courthouse today … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Taking Charge of Life
*My boyfriend and I occasionally incorporate SM play. I enjoy it and he enjoys it very much. I trust him and genuinely want to please him and yet the other day I became very upset. Will I just have to cut out something that gives us both pleasure? What can I do? I’d have to … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Scarey Play
* How do you know someone is a sex addict? Is sex addiction biological or environmental? I never use the term sex addict. I talk about compulsive behaviors that get in the way of daily living. I teach better ways to deal with such urges and compulsions. The tendency to overindulge or get hooked on … Continue reading Ask Isadora #20-08 : Sexual Addiction
* I am 37 and I’m in the process of getting a divorce. I haven’t had sex for several years. Understandably, I am very eager to start dating. When is it okay? It’s okay with me if you start yesterday, but that’s not really the point. When would it feel okay for you and are … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Raring to Go
* I went on my first date with this guy yesterday and we really had a great time. I just don’t know if I should invite him out or not next. Do I just have to sit and wait to see if he calls me again? Geez, this is hard. I don’t know. See, nobody … Continue reading Ask Isadora: The Dating Game