*My significant other masturbates to porn on the computer. I understand that he may need sex more often than I do and I’m sure that he loves only me, but I am still uncomfortable that he does this. Is this my problem or is it his? If his solo sex practices are causing difficulty between … Continue reading Ask Isadora #23-08 : What He Does in Private
* I am going through a very hard problem now. I got married a while back and I am now in a relationship with another man. I really love him a lot. We planned on getting married in August but I have not gotten a divorce yet. I am going down to the courthouse today … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Taking Charge of Life
*My boyfriend and I occasionally incorporate SM play. I enjoy it and he enjoys it very much. I trust him and genuinely want to please him and yet the other day I became very upset. Will I just have to cut out something that gives us both pleasure? What can I do? I’d have to … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Scarey Play
* How do you know someone is a sex addict? Is sex addiction biological or environmental? I never use the term sex addict. I talk about compulsive behaviors that get in the way of daily living. I teach better ways to deal with such urges and compulsions. The tendency to overindulge or get hooked on … Continue reading Ask Isadora #20-08 : Sexual Addiction
* I am 37 and I’m in the process of getting a divorce. I haven’t had sex for several years. Understandably, I am very eager to start dating. When is it okay? It’s okay with me if you start yesterday, but that’s not really the point. When would it feel okay for you and are … Continue reading Ask Isadora: Raring to Go
* I went on my first date with this guy yesterday and we really had a great time. I just don’t know if I should invite him out or not next. Do I just have to sit and wait to see if he calls me again? Geez, this is hard. I don’t know. See, nobody … Continue reading Ask Isadora: The Dating Game
* My new girlfriend, a woman in her 50’s, has a history of being abused as a child. I don’t know the details. She says that because of what happened to her she does not enjoy sexual contact and can not reach orgasm. Is there no hope for her? I wouldn’t say that. Many survivors … Continue reading Ask Isadora #17-08 : Hope for Recovery
* My lover and I have been on and off for years. We argue, we make up, we break up, we miss each other, we get back together, and repeat it all again. Is there any way to know for sure when the relationship is finally over? Well, the signs are certainly not as well … Continue reading Ask Isadora: It’s Over
* Im planning for a wild weekend and don’t want to worry about having erection difficulties. I generally take Cialis. How much is safe for say, a 48 hour funfest? A note in the March 26, 2008 Sexual Science, the newsletter for the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, says that Eli Lilly & … Continue reading Ask Isadora: A New Use for One-A-Day Pills
* What are some possible outlets for an aroused person who can not have sex or who has no one to have sex with? Being sexual with oneself, masturbation, is always safe and available for males and females with sexual urges. Often one can be sexual with a partner without having sexual intercourse. There is … Continue reading Ask Isadora #14-08 : What's Possible